All about me

I'm stuck. I try to be outgoing, I try to be there; but at the same time I know not to push too hard; because when I'm pushed too hard I shut down & push that person away. I wanna be there to support someone who I don't know very well. But, how? I try to think back to when I had to be there for people face to face & I guess it just came so easy to me. But now, I find it hard to find the right words. The right words to calm, to sympathize, to make smile, to laugh. The right words to make that person feel like they're not alone.
I've found myself in other peoples' shoes a LOT. So, my experience & my advice tends to go a long ways. But how do you get someone to open up to you, when you're not face to face?
It goes back to the pushing part; if I push to hard I think I'll push this person away & this person to shut down. But, I don't want this person to feel as though they are all alone. I may only be 23, 24 coming October; but I've experienced a LOT in my short life. Enough for my friends & even frienemies to come to ME for advice.
I've already reached out & let this person know that I'm there for them. I just know this person NEEDS somebody; but I'm scared to push them too much.

How am I to know when to push & when to stop? Especially when it's not face to face?

Just thoughts...

So I'm headed into work on Wednesday I think it was & it was beautiful out. Bright blue skies, not too hot, a little breeze going & I can't find anything on the radio. So, I tune into 98.5... and there it is. A song that you used to sing; one that if I remember correctly you sang as we were headed to the beach.
I knew when you took me to the beach you were in a great mood. Maybe that's why I love the beach still to this day. Idk.
But, I hear this song & I hear you singing. It's funny too, because every time I hear this mans voice I hear yours too. You had a similar voice, I always thought you had a great voice. But when you got into your "I've gotta be perfect" modes, you sucked.
I want to remember the good times, just the good times. But, when I think what came of right before we went to the beach & what happened after that wonderful day at the beach... that's when I get angry. God says that he cannot forgive me if I cannot forgive you; well, I've forgiven you long ago. Even though I KNEW you would NEVER apologize. And I also know that God says never to hate anybody or anything; but that is so hard for me to do; because I HATE YOU! As much as I've loved you I hate you 100x more!